5 Ways To A Stress-Free Wedding
(and have the best photographs!)
BY KATE STAPLETON
Wedding planning is stressful. From the day you got engaged, you've started pinning your favorite inspirations but you've now come to realize that making your wedding dreams come true is SO MUCH WORK. Between your career, school, the pups and your home life, you've probably been wishing for more time out of the day to accomplish the long list of tasks in your wedding planning checklist.
I get it! Putting together your dream wedding isn't easy. This is why I've put together this guide because by the time your wedding days rolls around, you've already poured so much into this dream wedding of yours that I truly believe you deserve to actually enjoy your wedding day. It's the BIGGEST day of your life, so nobody deserves to let loose more than you! Don't you agree?
Having photographed and be a witness to over 100 weddings, I've noticed the most fun weddings have these 5 things in common:
1. DELEGATE DAY-OF WEDDING TASKS.
You've already done majority of the work leading up to your wedding day. While it might be difficult to hand over the baton, by doing so, it will alleviate so much pressure off of you. First, create a Wedding Day Checklist on a working Google Drive spreadsheet where you brain dump all of your "Day-of Must Haves." Delegate each task to your wedding coordinator, parents, siblings, and members of your bridal party. Once you're done, send it to them by e-mail and let them know that they're accountable for the tasks next to their name. You'll be surprised at how much more relaxed you'll be and truth be told they'd actually be more than happy to take these tedious tasks off your plate!
2. PLAN YOUR TIME WISELY.
A seamless wedding day is like a well-oiled machine. There are many moving parts to make it work and those parts from one to the next all rely on time. The average wedding day is only 8-hours, so make sure to make use of your time wisely. A typical wedding timeline includes:
Bride & Groom Portraits
Husband and Wife Portraits
Plan ahead by cushioning an extra 30-minutes to one-hour for each part of the day in your timeline. This way, when people are running late or when hair and makeup runs longer than expected you'll have plenty of time for a smoother transition to the next part of the day.
3. SLOW IT DOWN.
The biggest complaint I've heard couples say after their wedding is, "It went by so fast, we didn't have time to breathe!" One of the many benefits of a First Look is having private time to breathe with your future spouse. When you're away from the hustle and bustle together, you'll find comfort in knowing that regardless of how busy the day has proven to be that it's all for a reason. And that reason is the lifelong commitment you're about to make to one another. It's kind of a BIG DEAL, so slow it down. Giving yourselves a few minutes to reset will help you gain a better perspective because you're reminded of why this is all happening in the first place!
4. EAT, DRINK, REPEAT.
The anxiety becomes real from the moment you wake up on your wedding day and the last thing you'll want to do is eat. However, your anxiety will only get worse on an empty stomach. So eat (and keep eating!) and drink lots of water. The mimosas might be tempting but that can only dehydrate you even more. Of course you don't want to get bloated, so it's a good idea to have protein-rich snacks in your suite. Make sure to cover all the bases too! Start with a breakfast spread in the morning: fresh fruit, whole grain toast, yogurt and granola. Then in the afternoon, a simple charcuterie board full of lean meats, nuts, and fruit will keep you satisfied throughout the day.
5. TRUST YOUR VENDORS.
Your team of experienced wedding vendors are here to help you succeed. We know this is the biggest day of your life and that you've hired us for a reason. You've already communicated to us your unique values, wants, and needs so at this point you need to give yourself some grace and let go.
As your wedding photographer, know that I'm committed to capturing unexpected perspectives and unnoticed moments that are invaluable to you. I understand that this is all you've ever dreamed of and that there are no do-overs. This is why I wholeheartedly believe that out of everyone in your wedding, YOU should be the one to have THE BEST time. I always encourage my couples to have a moment of reflection and to imagine as if their wedding day has already happened. Pretend that your wedding day is a second chance at celebrating the biggest day of your life. What would you have learned from the first time? Take a momentary pause and ask yourself: "At the end of the day, what will I regret doing or not doing?"